Originally published in the May 8, 2008 issue of The Evangel.
by Jean Benton, FBC member
The phone rang and it was my sister. "The ambulance is here and we are taking Daddy to the hospital again," she said. Although they live 125 miles from us, we went immediately. I strongly believe that the care of elderly parents should not fall on one sibling just because they live in the same town.
As parents age and encounter health problems, assistance from children can allow them to remain in the home as long as possible. But there comes a point when roles begin to reverse and children must make decisions about the care of their parents. It may be assuming management of finances, limiting driving privileges, or deciding on where they must live.
It is wise to give thought to this care in advance of the need. Power of attorney to make both financial and medical decisions should be discussed, decided, and obtained. Visit and obtain information on care facilities in your area. Talk with doctors and review finances. At least one child should know the location of parents' important documents. Parents should have a will and a living will.
Maintaining dignity and independence is the goal. If parents move into assisted living or a nursing care facility, work closely with the staff to be sure the proper level of care is given. If parents live with you in your home, utilize help from outside sources in order to maintain your own health.
The care of elderly parents is difficult emotionally, physically, and sometimes financially. But I believe it's part of God's command to honor your parents.
